Archive | October 2013

Body Sugar Scrub

Homemade Sugar Scrub

Get a small plastic container. Add a little canola oil (or baby oil) then add sugar and mix until sugar is wet. Continue alternating until the container is nearly full. A good consistency is 1 part oil to 2 parts sugar. I add about 7 drops of essential oil (from Bath and Body Works). The sweet cinnamon pumpkin smells wonderful. Close the container and let it set overnight. Check in the morning to see if there is a pool of oil on the top. If there is, add a little more sugar and let it set for a few hours. Use in the tub or shower. It will take care of that itchy, dry skin and leave your skin feeling silky smooth!

Homemade Shower Gel

Homemade Shower Gel
• 1 c. shampoo
• 1/2 c water
• 1-1/2 T. salt
• 12-15 drops essential oil of your choice (Depending on the brand of shampoo you use, you may not need this because the shampoo may have enough sent on its own.)
• 1 vitamin E capsule
• food coloring, optional
Combine all ingredients in a container. Shake well to mix.

Saving time versus saving money

I was a SAHM for 13 years. During that time, I would make anything I could that would save us money (laundry soap, fabric softener, cleaners, body care items, homemade mixes, cereals, granola, protein bars, etc.) Because I was a SAHM, I had the time and energy to do this. It also helped me to feel more like a help-meet to hubby because I was working hard to stretch his hard-earned money.

However, when I started working outside the home, things changed. Suddenly, I am spending most of my time away from home. Yet, I’m still home schooling, which demands more of my energy reserves, which are already running low by the time I get home from work.

Now add to that the life verse I picked for myself when I was a SAHM — “She does him good and not harm all the days of her life.” I was still feeling the pressure (from my own high expectations) to continue making all of the above items I mentioned. Yet, in trying to continue this, I was wearing myself out. And when Mama is worn out, you don’t want to be around her! Trust me — it ain’t pretty! I get very crabby and weepy when I am exhausted.

Finally, I had the wisdom to see that if I still wanted to “do him good and not harm all the days of his life,” I needed to be a happy wife who still had some energy at the end of the day. I finally opted to quit making my own grapenuts cereal, as well as the homemade granola and protein bars. Those three things are VERY time-consuming. I realized that what it was costing me in the time spent, not to mention the energy it took from me, it was no longer worth the extra savings.

And guess what? Things are a lot more relaxed and peaceful because I learned to let those things go. There is a reason the Bible tells us, “To everything there is a season.”

Spiritual Enablers

The Spiritual Enabler

In recent years, the terms “co-dependent” and “enabler” have become quite popular in dealing with people who are in dysfunctional relationships. These ideas have infiltrated the church.

For instance, we may fail to obey the Lord when He tells us to step down from a place of ministry. After all, if we step down, who will fill our shoes? The church needs us! We are spiritually co-dependent when we think God cannot find someone else to fill that place of ministry.

I went through a situation where a lady kept seeking me for advice. I spent a great deal of time talking with her on several occasions. I gave her clear-cut, scriptural guidelines. Yet, she refused to make the necessary changes. By allowing her to monopolize my time, I was enabling her – enabling her to take time away from my family and my priorities, not to mention enabling her to drain me emotionally, physically, and mentally.

I have seen a situation in church where a lady lies continually. Several people refuse to confront her lying ways. Doing so enables her to continue in her sin, whereas, loving confrontation may lead her to repent for her sins.

I think women fall into this trap too often because we have such a hard time saying “no” when we are asked to do something. Keep in mind that when we refuse to say “no,” sometimes we hinder God’s plan for someone else. Perhaps what we just agreed to do was really a job God had planned for someone else. Yet, we just got in His way.

Is there someone who seems to be drawn to you like a magnet, constantly needing spiritual advice? Perhaps they discern you are a person of the Word, so they seek you instead of the Word because they are too lazy to seek God on their own. By letting them continue in their behavior, we become enablers. We may also be co-dependent; for we may love the way they make us feel when they seek our wisdom. Often, one feeds the other. We enable the behavior because it makes us feel good to be needed.

David asked the Lord to search his heart. I think it is wise to ask the Lord to also search our relationships. Perhaps we will discover that we have become spiritual enablers.

Have you fallen into the trap of being an enabler?

© 2007, Stacy R. Miller

Monday’s adventures

After work, I had to return something to Hobby Lobby. Headed home long enough to make some coffee and grab a stack of to-do stuff before dd had her driving lesson. Since it warmed up quite a bit, I sat in the car for that hour and turned on some instrumental worship while I paid bills, planned my menu for the month of November, wrote out my shopping list, and did devotions. It was a wonderful, refreshing time since the music was soothing my spirit, even while I was conquering my to-do list.

Since dh was gone today, we decided to go to the grocery store and by the grocery items we needed to complete my menu plan. We didn’t get home until after 6:00.

And now for our supper, we are enjoying smoothies from our new Ninja blender. I used pineapple, banana, orange juice, and vanilla yogurt. The only thing I do differently the next time is to add ice to it. Well….and not slice my finger on the blades!!!!

Spiritual Hyenas

Spiritual Hyenas

One behavior common in the animal kingdom is the arrival of hyenas trying to steal the prey from other animals. Rarely will you see a nature show portraying hyenas on the hunt for live prey. They let other animals do the hunting, the chasing, and the killing. They come along after the fact, in hopes of taking the food for which others have worked.

I have seen spiritual hyenas in the church. These hyenas are too lazy to “hunt” for spiritual meat, so they try to take it from others. Often times, they even demand that you spoon-feed it to them.

Spiritual hyenas are too apathetic to chase after God. They may show up at the altar and weep bitter tears, yet walk away unchanged because chasing after God is not something you do only on Sunday. A healthy spiritual diet requires that we pursue God on a daily basis. (Psalm 61:8; Proverbs 8:17)

Spiritual hyenas refuse to kill their fleshly desires. (Romans 8:13) They also refuse to fight spiritual battles. (Ephesians 6:10-18) They would rather prey on someone who is prayed up and ask them to fight the spiritual battle for them. Yet God says to put on the full armor of God so that you are able to stand against Satan’s schemes. (Ephesians 6:10) Notice that it does not tell us to find someone else to stand in our place against the devil.

When we allow spiritual hyenas into our life, the results are:

1. We are not giving to them from the overflow of God’s Spirit in us. Rather, they are stealing our spiritual food and we will quickly become spiritually depleted.
2. Not only do they steal spiritual food from us, they steal glory from God. If only they would seek the Lord for themselves, God would give them plenty of reasons to praise Him!
3. They begin to seek us instead of God. In a sense, we become God to them.

We are told to be very wise in the way we live, making the most of every opportunity. (Ephesians 5:15-16) When we are doing things which seem to be of a spiritual nature, we may think we are still using our time very wisely. However, spiritual hyenas are very sly and sneaky. Because of that, we must be careful to guard against them so we do not end up becoming unwise stewards of our time.

Have you become prey to a spiritual hyena?
© 2007, Stacy R. Miller